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St. Barnabas Parish, Bayville, NJ

+Believing, Belonging, & Becoming+

Our Parish Mission:

We are a diverse, active community, rooted in the love of Christ.

We recognize who we are and all that we have comes from God.

In gratitude we respond in prayer, service, and sharing of our time,
talent and treasure.

Through the sacraments, we are committed to evangelization,
learning, teaching, and proclaiming God's Word to His people.

WELCOME

We invite you to join us as we gather to pray and worship our Lord Jesus Christ.
We meet regularly to celebrate our unity in the sacraments, in the reading of God’s Word,
and in our care for one another.

In a parish as large as ours, it is challenging to build a strong spirit of community.
We invite your active participation. The variety of programs, outreach, committees, and ministries described in this directory are intended to include you and to meet your spiritual and social needs.

Since we are all called to serve God in others we encourage you to examine each listing and decide which you would find most fulfilling. Your input will be greatly appreciated and your hands will be most welcome. The Sunday Bulletin is the best source of information about the activities listed here. There you will find the names and numbers to call if you wish to volunteer or to obtain more information.

GENERAL INFORMATION

The Parish Office is in the RECTORY, to the left of the church.

Parish Office Hours:

9:00 AM to 4:00 PM Monday -Thursday

9:00AM to 3:00PM - Friday

Phone: 732-269-2208. ext. 100

Religous Ed Office - Mon-Thurs 1pm-8pm ext. 126

Pastor: Very Rev. Kevin J. Keelen, V.F. ext. 104

Religious Education/CCD is held in Father Rucki Hall and in the Annex which is to the right of the church. Office hours for CCD are from 10 AM to 5 PM on Monday to Thursday during the school year.

The Adoration Chapel is open every day from 7:00 AM to 7:00 PM during the week and from 7:00 AM to 12:30pm on Saturday and Sunday for Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament. You are always welcome to spend time with the Lord in prayer. For more information dial ext. 313.

Parish GIFT & THRIFT SHOP- is in the Spiritual Center vestibule.

Open: Sat. 3:30-5:30, Sun. 7:30-1:30, Wed. 8:30am-4pm. Fri. 9am-1pm

Certificates of Eligibility and Sponsor Certification are issued through the Parish Office to parishioners who have been registered in the parish for a minimum of six months and meet Diocesan requirements for being a sponsor at Baptism or Confirmation, namely:

16 years of age

Fully initiated in the Catholic Church, i.e. have celebrated

Baptism, First Eucharist, and Confirmation.

If married, are in a marriage recognized by the Roman

Catholic Church

Actively practicing their Catholic Faith, attending Mass

regularly

Parish Staff, Departments & Ministry Directory

(for more info see end of section)

PARISH OFFICE: 732-269-2208

Prayer Hotline - ext. 310, Emergency Hotline- ext. 333

Pastor: Fr. Kevin Keelen -ext. 104

Associate Pastor: Fr. Michael Hall- ext. 116

Associate Pastor: Fr. Roberto Padilla, ext. 131

Business & Office Manager: Barbara Dudek- ex. 102

Deacons: Bob Gay,- ex. 312, Mike Smigelski, -ex. 304, George Swanson,- ex. 311

Latino Ministries & Outreach- Carrie Barillas- ex. 131

Secretaries: Main Office- Gail Battisti,- ext. 100

Religious Ed & Confirmation: -Stephanie DeCrescenzo -ext. 129

Office Hours for Religious Ed- Mon-Thurs. 1pm-8pm

Worship & Environment:

Director of Music: Tom Hinz,- ext. 105

Maintenance Supervisor: Joe Tun, -ext. 100

Sacristan: Ed Mahon, -ext. 100

Scheduling Coordinator: Pat,-ext. 106

Adoration of Blessed Sacrament – ext. 313

Mon-Fri 7am-7pm, Sat/Sun 7am-12:30

Barnabas Active Gardeners-BAGs -ex. 100

Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion, ext. 104, Lectors,- ex. 104,

Altar Servers,- ext. 116, Ushers & Greeters- ext. 128

Liturgy Committee,- ext. 120

Children’s Liturgy Committee- ext. 100

Faith Formation & Catechesis:

Mary Britanak- ext. 128

Religious Education-ext. 126

Baptism Prep Team- ext. 128

Hospitality Committee- ext. 128

Parents for Catholic Education PCE

Parish Nursing- ext. 115 -Office Hours: Thurs. 9am-12pm

Pre- Cana Team- ext. 100

RCIA -ext. 116

Scripture Study- ext. 332

Pastoral Care & Evangelization:

Terry Damiano - ext. 120

Bereavement Support Group

Comfort Ministry

Hospital/ Nursing Home Visitors

Separated & Divorced Support- ex.309

Annulment Advocates- ext. 100

Stewardship & Youth:

Dan Waddington - ext. 127

Barnabas Active Teens-BATs

Parish Stewardship Council

Shared Ministry Council

Welcome Committee- ext. 100

Young Adults- ext. 116

Social Action/Social Justice:

Respect Life Committee- ext. 306

Social Action Hotline- ext. 308- furniture, clothing, donations/requests

Interfaith Hospitality Network- ext. 120

Caregivers of Ocean County, - ext 120

St. Vincent de Paul- ext. 134- Assisting the Needy

Food Pantry Hours: Mon. 9:30-11:15am, 6pm-6:45, Wed. 9:30-11:15am, 5:30-7:15pm, Fri. 9:30-11:15am

Social/Spiritual Organizations:

Knights of Columbus- ext. 100

Altar Rosary Society -ext. 120

Golden Age- Parish Seniors

Prayer Groups - ext. 120

THE SACRAMENTS AT ST. BARNABAS

BAPTISM: Sundays 1:30pm & 1st Sunday at Mass. Contact Parish Office for preparation, arrangements & sponsor certificates. You must be a registered parishioner to obtain.

MARRIAGE: Couples must be registered in our parish 6 months before booking & adhere to all parish wedding polices available on website. There is a one year prep period. Please call Parish Office.

ANOINTING OF THE SICK: Please call emergency line ext. 333, or Parish Office, ext. 100 to schedule an appointment. There is no need to wait until near death. This is no longer considered “Last Rites.”

RECONCILIATION/CONFESSIONS: Saturdays 3:15-3:45 or by appointment. Also Seasonal Services.

CONFIRMATION: ext. 128, Adults- RCIA, ext. 116

HOMEBOUND EUCHARIST: If someone would like to have Holy Communion brought to them, call ext. 100.

Hospital & Nursing Home Visitors- ext. 120

HOLY ORDERS/VOCATIONS: Fr. Kevin, ext. 104

OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH AND STEWARDSHIP OF SERVICE

CATECHETICAL MINISTRIES

1. BIBLE STUDY

Various opportunities for studying the Bible are provided during the

year. This allows us to explore and reflect on the meaning of the

Scriptures at a deeper level than is possible during Mass. During these

sessions there is an opportunity to reflect on how the Word of God

can and should impact our daily lives.

Ext. 332

2. BAPTISM PREPARATION

This mini-retreat takes place every other month in the Rucki Hall Faith Formation Center.

Our evening together is a time of prayer and preparation for parents and godparents, providing formation and information about the Sacrament

of Baptism and the responsibilities they assume when they choose this

sacrament for their child. Questions about godparents, certificates of

eligibility, Christian parenting, and the rituals of the ceremony are

addressed. Attendance at this program is required before a child may

be baptized. Please call the parish office if you want your

child baptized.

Ext. 100

3. FAITH FORMATION

Our Bishop has recognized the great need for Adult Faith Formation

as a tool to build community, foster stewardship, and to empower our

young parents to truly be the first teachers of the faith for their children.

He has invited our parish, in conjunction with the Diocesan Office of

Religious Education, to participate in an exciting new pro-gram. A

Team will be trained to equip them to present this program to our

parishioners. We hope that it will fill a void that may exist in the educa

tion and understanding of our Catholic Faith. Ext. 128

4. MINI SUNDAY SCHOOL

The purpose of this school is to support families in training their youngsters (3-6 years) in the practice of the Catholic faith and the love of God, as portrayed in the Gospels. To do this, the Mini Sunday School uses printed materials, games, songs, and plays that help the children experience God. The school meets on Sundays, during the 10:00 AM Mass from October to May except during holidays. There is also limited baby-sitting (called Cradle Roll) for children under 3 years of age during this Mass. Ext. 128

5. PRE-CANA MINISTRY

The Pre-Cana Program is organized and conducted by a team of

married couples from within the parish, together with a priest modera-

tor. You can be a member of this team if you are committed to God,

the Church, your marriage, and are willing to share your experiences

with the engaged couples. The purpose of the program is to prepare

engaged couples for their upcoming marriage. Attendance at this or a

similar program is required for those who wish to be married in the

Catholic Church. These programs are held three times a year, on a

Friday and Saturday evening.

Ext. 100

6. RELIGIOUS EDUCATION PROGRAM (CCD)

Reverence for each other motivates us to create a religious education

program which promotes community, emphasizes gospel values,

encourages daily prayer, and fosters frequent participation in the

sacramental life of the Church. We hope that our program will lead all

to a deeper commitment to the Church and to an active transforma-

tion of the world. This program is intended especially for the children

of the parish. Regular classes and consistent attendance should begin

in the first grade and continue until the child has celebrated the Sacrament of Confirmation. Volunteer teachers must have a criminal background check through fingerprinting. See our Religious Education page for more details as well as

our section on Sacraments. Ext. 128

7. RITE OF CHRISTIAN INITIATION OF ADULTS (RCIA)

The RCIA Program is for the instruction of adults who wish to learn

more about the Catholic faith and/or wish to celebrate the sacraments

of Baptism, Holy Eucharist, and/or Confirmation. Meetings are held

on Mondays from 7:30 to 9:000 PM in the Adult Faith Center in Rucki Hall.

The Program starts in September and continues until the following Easter. Ext. 116

8. VACATION BIBLE SCHOOL (VBS)

Vacation Bible School is a half-day program offered to the children of the parish during the last week of July. It includes daily bible lessons, arts, crafts, music, play activities, and a snack. The program ends with the celebration of Mass on Sunday where the children lead the con-gregation with the hymns they learned in VBS. They also participate in the Mass in other appropriate ways. It is open to all children from those entering kindergarten through those in the sixth grade. There is a small fee for the use of materials during the week. Ext. 126

9. WHOLE COMMUNITY CATECHESIS

The goal of Whole Community Catechesis is to involve the entire parish family in the ongoing formation that takes place through the Sunday Mass and readings. One important aspect of this is to offer a "Question of the Week" which can be found in the bulletin each week. The Question is derived from the Gospel on Sunday or one of the readings at Mass. The Mass is the source and summit of all that we do, and thus all our parish functions are connected to Sunday Mass through Whole Community Catechesis. We encourage families to connect their tables at home with the Lord's table by discussing the Question of the Week together at any time throughout the week. Each parish meeting begins with a sharing of the Question in order to allow faith sharing to become a regular part of our life together as a parish community. As we move on in the process of Whole Community Catechesis we will be offering Family Catechetical (learning) sessions, Adult Faith Formation sessions, discussion sessions after Masses and much more. We hope you participate in Whole Community Catechesis and use the Question of the Week on a regular basis. Families and groups who have utilized this have shared very postive spiritual results. ext. 128

LITURGICAL MINISTRIES

1. ALTAR SERVERS

Parishioners, from the 4th grade to adults, assist at weekend and Holyday Masses. They are trained in the duties of Altar Servers. Children, men and women are welcome to participate in this important ministry. They are expected to be available to serve all Masses to which they are assigned.

Ext. 116

2. CHILDREN’S LITURGY COMMITTEE

The Children’s Liturgy Committee plans and organizes the children’s Mass. The Children perform the function of Lectors, reading the scriptures that are assigned for the day and lead in the prayers of the faithful. They also bring the offerings to the altar at the appropriate time. This Mass is celebrated on the 4th Sunday of the month at 10:00 AM from September to May. Call Donna 732 - 505 - 8211

3. EXTRAORDINARY MINISTERS of the EUCHARIST

These Ministers assist the priest with the distribution of Communion at weekend and daily Masses. Additionally, they may be asked to bring Communion to the homebound. Eucharistic Ministers are approved by the staff and mandated by the Bishop to serve in our parish. At-tendance at training sessions is required and ministers agree to serve at the Masses scheduled.

Ext. 104

4. LECTORS

Lectors assist at Mass by reading the scheduled Mass Scriptures, the prayers of the faithful, and any announcements that are needed. Since the Word of God should be proclaimed with clarity and meaning, lectors are chosen who have good diction, are willing to spend time pre-paring the readings, and are prompt and committed to their assignments. They meet as needed.

Ext. 104

5. LITURGY COMMITTEE

This committee assists the Pastor and staff members with liturgy pre-paration according to Church and Diocesan guidelines, parish traditions, and personal experiences. With the help of the Pastor and staff we gain a knowledge of and conform to the church and liturgical doc-uments which have been mandated by Vatican II. They also evaluate the liturgies since the previous meeting and asses the appearance of the worship space. They meet at least once a month. Ext. 104

6. USHERS

They are present at the Masses to assist in the good order of the litur-gical assembly. They are a welcoming presence to all who come to worship and assist anyone who is in need of information. They especially assist in receiving the offerings of the faithful, and helping in any emergency situations. Volunteers are welcome. Ext. 100

7. WORSHIP ENVIRONMENT- Barnabas Active Gardeners- BAGs

Volunteers assume the responsibility to see that the church and ground are maintained in an attractive and welcoming manner that increases the at-mosphere of worship. Special Feasts, such as the major Holydays of Christmas and Easter, require special decorations and extra people are always needed at these times. Ext. 104

MUSIC MINISTRIES

1. ADULT CHOIR

The Adult Choir enhances the liturgical functions of the church by providing reverent and uplifting musical accompaniment. Song is a way of lifting the heart in prayer. The Adult Choir sings at the 10:00AM and/or 12:00 PM Mass on Sunday except during the summer months. Practice is held on Wednesday evenings from 7:30 to 9pm. Beginning in the Fall of 2010, the Adult Choir will be adding many new and exciting choral pieces. Even if you are just thinking about singing with the choir, you are welcome to come join us during a rehearsal and observe or participate.
New members are always welcome. Ext. 105

2. THE ST. BARNEY'S ROCKS- Teen Mass Rock Ensemble

This ministry consists of teens and adults with some musical experience who play a wide variety of musical instruments. Experience levels range from beginner to professional. This ensemble meets every Monday evening from 7:00 to 8:00 PM in split sessions and can be heard every other Sunday at the 5pm Mass. New members are always welcome but must have their own instrument. Ext. 105

3. YOUNG MUSICIANS- CHILDREN'S CHOIR

To allow all of our young people to add their special gifts to the par-ish liturgies we have several musical groups for them to join according to their ages and talents.

The Children’s Choir is for those who are 8 years and older. Practice will be on Wednesday from 6 to 7pm. Some adjustments are made to accommodate school activities. This choir sings at the 10:00 AM Mass on the 4th Sunday of the month from September to Easter.

4. TEEN CHOIR- Our new Teen Choir is composed of those teens and adults who wish to add their voices and talents to the parish worship at the Sunday 12:00 PM Mass. Ext. 105

PARISH ORGANIZATIONS

1. HOSPITALITY COMMITTEE

In an effort to increase a spirit of unity among all parishioners this group holds various social events that help new members to feel at home and all to get to know each other better. Welcome and Community Sundays are planned which will provide coffee and ... once a month for those families that have recently registered in the parish. If you have a welcoming spirit you are needed.

Ext. 100

2. KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS

The Knights are a Catholic organization open to all men over18 years. They are dedicated to charity, unity, fraternity, patriotism, and Mary, the Mother of the Church. Their main goal is to promote service to the Church and help to those in need. The Council functions include support for Right to Life, the handicapped, those with special needs, seminarians, and devotion to the Rosary. They sponsor yearly functions such as funds for seminarians, scholarships for high school students, breakfast for altar servers, delivery of Thanksgiving Day needs, food drives, collection of eye glasses for the needy, monthly soup kitchen, and other family oriented activities. The Knights give all Catholic men an opportunity to strengthen their faith, their family, and willingness to serve their church. Yearly dues are $35.00. Meetings are held on the first and third Wednesday of each month in the spiritual center after the Rosary in the Chapel at 7:15 PM. Visit their website: www.kofc8603.com Ext. 100

3. PARISH STEWARDSHIP COUNCIL

The Parish Council functions as an advisory group to the pastor. It gives the parish representatives an opportunity to discuss agenda items presented by the pastor as well as concerns expressed by parishioners. Members of the Parish Council are appointed by the pastor and serve for three years. They work together to serve the needs of the parish. The Council meets monthly. There is a companion council on the diocesan level that meets with the Bishop four times a year. Ext. 104

4. ST. BARNABAS GOLDEN AGE GROUP

A new ministry has received an enthusiastic response from our seniors. They gather monthly from 1:00 PM to 3:00 PM on the 3rd Thursday of the month in Fr. Brennen Hall and enjoy creating various crafts, listening to special speakers, and taking occasional trips such as to the Surf Light Theater. Ext. 100

5. BARNABAS ACTIVE GARDENERS (BAGS)

The BAGs of St. Barnabas assist in the beautification of our parish campus by giving of their time and talent to plant and maintain flowers and fauna in assigned areas around the parish grounds. This provides a most welcoming and spiritually uplifting environment for our parishioners. "A garden is where the soul feels at home." The BAGs work in conjunction with the pastor and the maintenance department. They share a common vision for the parish grounds and work together in a spirit of fellowship and hospitality. The BAGs also help to maintain (water, weeding etc.) their assigned spots. We are old BAGs and young BAGs, male and female BAGs. It's a great way to give a little of your time, enjoy the beauty of nature, stay active, and serve the parish. For more information, or to join us in this "happy ministry," please call Mary Horton at 732-237-2590.

STEWARDSHIP OF PRAYER

1. ADORATION OF THE BLESSED SACRAMENT

The Blessed Sacrament is exposed for adoration in the Chapel from 7:00 AM to 7:00 PM from Monday to Friday. On weekends adoration ends at 12:30pm. Come and spend time with the Lord. Ext. 313

2. CENTERING PRAYER SUPPORT GROUP

On Tuesday evenings from 7:00 to 8:00 PM in the Chapel this group meets to give support, practice, encouragement, and teachings about centering prayer. The group is associated with the International Con-templative Outreach founded by Father Thomas Keating. All who wish to learn more about this form of prayer are welcome to join us.

Ext. 100

3. OPEN DOOR PRAYER GROUP

This Charismatic group meets at 8:00 PM on Thursdays to praise and thank God for His many blessings. “Life in the Spirit” seminars are offered to anyone who wishes to learn more about living according to the promptings and in the power of the Holy Spirit. The door is open. All are welcome.

Ext. 100

4. ROSARY ALTAR SOCIETY

The Rosary Society welcomes all women of the parish who wish to grow in their devotion and knowledge of the Blessed Virgin. A yearly calendar of activities is planned with a threefold focus: spiritual, ser-vice, and social. The women gather as a group at the 8:00 AM Mass on the first Sunday of the month and before each meeting to recite the Rosary in the Chapel. A day of recollection and a weekend retreat are part of the yearly schedule along with several social events. These women also take care of the altar linens, staff the religious article store, and sew the Baptismal bibs. Meetings are held on the first Monday after the first Sunday of the month in the spiritual center at 8:00 PM. Yearly dues are $5.00. Guests are welcome! Ext. 100

5. SMALL CHRISTIAN COMMUNITIES

These groups gather to share, learn, and encouraging each other to grow in their faith. The groups also suggest social and religious activ-ities throughout the year that will foster a deepening of their personal faith commitment. The members assist in organizing these activities. They also coordinate and cooperate with the Diocesan Office for Small Christian Communities (SCC). Ext. 100

6. PARISH RETREATS

Our in-house Parish Retreats are offered at least 4 times each year in Rucki Hall (the Religious Education Center) Thursday & Friday 6pm (including dinner) and Saturday morning from 9-11 (including breakfast). The retreats are free of charge (a good will offering is taken). Come and see how God speakis to us through this wonderful time of prayer, reflection, discussion and more. To find our more, sign up for a retreat or to volunteer for a retreat team or hospitaltiy, please call Mary at ext. 128.

7. MOMS PRAYER & SHARE

Mothers come together on Friday mornings at 10am in Rucki Hall in the AFF Lounge to share faith, prayer and strengthen and support each other as they deepend a relationship with God and build community within our parish. All moms are welcome! Every Friday! Ext. 100

CONSOLATION MINISTRIES - Stewardship of Care & Support

1.CAREGIVERS OF CENTRAL OCEAN COUNTY, INC.

A faith-based coalition whose mission is to provide supportive homecare services to the frail, elderly, disabled & homebound. St. Barnabas Parish volunteers are trained by the Caregivers Organization. OUr volunteersmay work an hours a week or more at a time according to their own schedule. Our help enables our friends, neighbors & parishioners to continue living independantly in their own homes. Interested peeople will need a careing, loving and generous heart adn be willing to provide non-medical support to homebound individuals. Care Receiver requests for help are referred to Caregivers 732-505-2273. Persons interested in volunteering should call ext.100

2. INTERFAITH HOSPITALITY NETWORK (IHNOC)

This is part of a national, non-profit, interfaith ministry committed to uniting the county religious communities and providing shelter, meals, and assistance to homeless families. Currently there are about a dozen congregations provide space for a maximum of 14 people. Families move weekly on a fixed schedule between houses of worship. Host sites adn parish volunteers provide shelter, meals and overnight accomodation to our guests for a week at a time. Our parish volunteers are trained by IHNOC. Interested persons will need compassion, acceptance, and a willingness to provide a sage haven while our guests work and seek permanent affordable houseing. Our parish hosts approx. 4 times each year. Volunteers may serve as little as once a year according to their own schedule.

Ext. 311

3. PARISH NURSING MINISTRY

This program is a health care ministry for St. Barnabas Parish. The ministry encourages each individual’s spiritual, physical, emotional, and social well-being. Through this program we seek to develop creative ways to address needs and identify resources which will help to nurture the body, mind, and spirit of all. The team consists primarily of licensed nurses, other members of health care professions, and anyone interested in participating in activities related to the promotion of health within the parish. The Parish Nursing Office is located in Rectory Office hours are on Thursdays from 9-12noon. Call 732-269-2208

Ext. 115

4. PRO LIFE COMMITTEE- Ext. 306

The St. Barnabas Respect Life Ministry is from the Womb to the Tomb, if you will, and is made up of various sub-committees.

Our patron Saint is Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati....he lived life to it’s fullest as an adventurer, climbing mountains, skiing, etc...came from a wealthy family but shunned it’s lifestyle, both parents were not Catholic or even the least bit religious, but yet at an early age he felt a strong calling to do the Lords work, he serviced and ministered to those in the poor areas and to Polio patients....contacted polio and died at the age of 24. We chose him as opposed to a St. who died from giving child birth, or a mother, etc....because of his love and appreciation of the gift of life!! He did not waste a moment of that gift!!

Sub Committees:

A. Right To Life: which really isn’t a sub- committee per say but of course works in the area of defending innocent life in the womb.

• We are involved with witnessing at the abortion clinic on Rt. 37 most especially during the Fall/Spring 40 Day for Life campaign.

• Every Saturday morning our ministry has a designated hour of adoration for the unborn at 9AM.

• Some of us have been involved in witnessing by working the Ocean County Right to Life table at the Ocean County Fair.

• We participate in the Right To Life march in Washington and the Bishops Witness for Life Procession in Red Bank every year.

• Whenever we can by selling Right to Life items in the store we do that too.

One very beautiful thing that has come from our efforts in the area of Right to Life is our “Visitation Team”(of course based on Mary’s visit to Elizabeth) which was created to assist young pregnant girls and their families in choosing the path of life.

B Single Mom’s Committee- This committee supports and nurtures single moms in their role as single parents by offering help when needed along with holding events which provide opptys for the moms to learn about resources and issues surrounding their lives. Most especially, offering them an oppty to gather together in friendship and sisterhood! Our last single Mom’s event was on July 22nd and it was a BBQ in Fr. Brennan Hall/parking area. It was an awesome night of sharing and healing for some Mom’s that just needed a place to go with their kids and enjoy time with other adults. Committee Head – Terry Pasquarello

Events in the past have been:

Pizza and Pamper night(pizza and nails done) also a lot of sharing.

Speaker workshop with creator of My Mother’s Keeper – a grass root organization that supports Single Mom’s by way of education, job placement, financial assistance and emotional support.

Coupon/$$ Saving Tip Seminar – Mom’s learned how to shop wisely and use coupons!!

Spiritual Cleansing Workshop –

Holiday Shopping Mom’s Night out – Mom’s were offered an evening of babysitting so that they could go out and holiday shop without their children!

Movie Night – Offered Crafts for Moms – Caren Stichter taught our Mom’s how to make Wallets while the kids watched a movie and at popcorn!!

C. Education Committee- This committee is responsible for educating our parish community on the Respect Life Issues such as abortion, natural family planning, adoption, Families with Special Needs, End of life issues such as Advanced Directives, Assisted Suicides, Caregivers support, etc..

D. Adoption Committee- This committee ran their first event last October and it was an Adoption Expo. About 13 adoption organizations from NJ, NY and PA were represented and our parish community as well as surrounding community was able to learn about adoption. The next event for this committee will be held on Saturday, September 11th and is the first in a series of workshops on adoption. This first one will be hosted by Concerned Persons for Adoption, a NJ advocacy group. They were represented at our expo back in October. The Workshop is called Adoption 101 and will give attendees a general overview of what adoption is and if it fits in their life and that of their families. The next workshop(pending approval)Date TBD will focus on the costs of adoption and break through some of the myths surrounding these costs etc. Committee Head – Marc Stelevich

E. End of Life Committee - Last July we held a Catholic Advance Workshop as well as this July as you are aware. These workshops are very popular and the committee is hoping to do these workshops at least twice a year. Head – Marie Dibella

F. Youth Committee - It is so critical to start the Respect Life education at an early age!! Young members join in on the March for Life in Washington, and participate in the activities of most of the sub committees. We are always looking for new member and new ideas! Head – Caitlin Higgins

G. Special Needs Families Committee -Headed up by Michelle Feery and her husband this committee is still in the planning stages and is preparing to have their first meeting hopefully in September. This committee will deal with the quality of life within Special Needs families. Support to Parents and siblings while educating the parish community on what it’s like to live with special needs breaking through the stigma which most people place on people with disabilities.

H. Suicide Survivors and Prevention Committee - After gathering up a solid and committed team of people, we would enlist the help of professionals that work with our Diocese to create the mission of this committee. The committee as with most of all the other committees, would simply be a point of resource for parishioners who may need help themselves or know of loved ones that do. This committee would be a resource/educational outlet and perhaps form a support group. We would have professionals come speak and offer information.

I. Legislative Committee - This committee is headed up by Vinnie Gabulaski and is involved in letter writing campaigns to our Legislators National and State level on all Respect Life Issues.

5. ST. VINCENT de PAUL SOCIETY - located in Rectory Offices

This is a Catholic lay organization whose volunteers help those who are in need. SVDP help includes any person-to-person assistance that promotes human dignity and integrity. In addition to assistance with the material necessities of life, members visit and offer companionship to those who are homebound, hospitalized, or confined to institutions. As a reflection of the family of God, SVDP members are drawn from every ethnic and cultural background, age group, and economic level. They form small groups called “conferences” that meet regularly, pray together, and carry out their selected charitable works. They are united in the worldwide movement of the St. Vincent de Paul Society by a common philosophy and mutual sharing. For assistance of any kind, access to our FOOD PANTRY or to volunteer please call. 732-269-2208 Ext 134

6. WHISPERS- Support Group for Parents who have lost a child. If you have experienced teh loss of a child, we offer support through a gathered community of those who have suffered similar loss. It does not matter how long ago you suffered your loss, all are welcome. We offer time to share, pray, remember. For more information please contact Rosemarie Spedaliere at 732-269-6595.

7. ANNULMENT ADVOCATES

Parishioners trained by the Diocesan Tribunal are available to assist those wishing to pursue the annulment process. ch request is as unique as the persons who entered the marriage. The deeper understanding that can come from an honest and searching study of one’s broken marriage can heal wounds and hurts profoundly. An annulment may bring about spiritual closure to the past, permit the con-validation of a present marriage, or provide part of the solid foundation for a lasting and successful marriage in the future, For information, accurate facts, and appointments call the special private line through the parish office. Our parish is fortunate to have parishioners and staff persons available to help. An annulement, once granted, opens to door to have a marriage blessed in the Catholic Church and made a sacrament. 309

8. BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT GROUP

This support group, facilitated by our deacons and lay people, provides a safe environment for the bereaved; We use a six week program authored by Renew International. We suggest at least a 6 month interval between the loss and joining of this support group. The 6 wekk program focuses on personal recovery and growth after a loss. We urge you atend all 6 sessions for maximum benefit. Small, intimate groups provide a safe space to share the pain of the loss of a loved one. We offer this opportunity twice a year, once in the Spring adn once in the Fall. Day time and night time sessons are available and run concurrently. Other parishes offer support groups to the newly bereaved. For more information, you are invited to call Ext 120.

9. PRISM

A support group program for single parents and step-parents who have suffered a loss..(see also Rainbows #8 below). A facilitator, trained by Rainbows International leads the meetings. Our handbook, The Hurt, The Healing, The Hope,offers a springboard for discussion of issues facing you and your child after a loss. All information shared is strictly confidential. Prism is offered in concert with Rainbows, 6 or 7 week sessions are offered once in the Spring and once in the Fall at no charge. We urge attendance at all sessions. Call 732-269-2208, ext. 128 to register. Visit www.rainbows.org or www.rainbowsnj.org for more information.

10. COMFORT MINISTRY

Members of the Comfort Ministry contact and meet with the family of a deceased parishioner to help them plan the Funeral Mass. They help select readings and hymns and encourage the family to participate in the Mass (by reading the Scripture and/or bringing the offertory gifts to the altar). When needed, the members will assist at the Mass and aid the family in any way they can. The Ministry meets whenever there is a need to do so. If you would like to join this ministry please call the parish office. Ext. 104

11. PASTORAL COUNSELING

Various forms of individual and/or family PASTORAL counseling are available. Gerry owden, MSW ext. 328, is available for counseling in the evenings and on Saturday mornings by appointment and Dan Waddington, MA, ext. 127is also available by appointment. Pastoral Counseling takes place in the Pastoral Counseling Center in the Rectory. There are polices and more information available upon request.

Please call 732-269-2208 Ext. 117

12. RAINBOWS FOR GOD’S CHILDREN

The largest world-wide organization dedicated to helping youth cope with loss due to separation, divorce, death, abandonment, incarneration or military service. Small groups are offered by trained facilitators in small, confidential groups. Rainbows is offered in conjunction with Prism (see above) if one so chooses. It is offered twice a year for 6-7 weeks in the Spring and Fall at no charge. We recommend children to attend all the sessions offered. It does not have to hurt forever. See www.rainbows.org or www.rainbowsnj.org. Call us at Ext. 128

13. MINISTRY TO SEPARATED, DIVORCED, REMARRIED CATHOLICS

This is group founded to provide hope and support to all who have experienced the trauma of divorce and separation. By sharing our feelings and experiences with each other and with trained facilitators the journey of healing begins. We address the religious, emotional, financial, and parenting issues relative to separation, divorce, and remarriage. Through conferences, seminars, workshops, speakers, and social events we eliminate many myths, make known Christ’s abundant love. There are no fees, confidentiality is maintained. We are members of the North American Conference of Separated and Divorced Catholics, Region 3. Refer to www. nacsdc.org for international and regional news and events. For more information, call 732-269-2208, ext.108 or Mary Alice, 732-269-2208

14. PRAYER HOTLINE - 732-269-2208 ext. 310

Feel free to leave any prayer intentions on our Prayer Hotline. Parishioners dedicated to prayer will put your intention on a Prayer Wheel, asking as many people as possible to pray for your intention.

YOUTH MINISTRY

1. B.A.T.S AND JR. B.A.T.S

Our Youth Ministry, the St. Barnabas Active Teens (B.A.T.s), provides an opportunity for the teens of our parish to come together with other teens who share the same faith. We are not a CCD or school-like program. There are no books or homework! We focus on having fun, meeting new people, and growing in our faith as teenagers. Our activities include group discussions about many different topics (these are decided by the group), attending concerts, service projects, conferences, and dances. We meet on most Sunday nights from 6:00 to 8:00 PM. All junior and senior high school teens are welcome. There is no fee and no long term commitment is required to attend. Just show up any time and check us out!!

We have two different st. Barnabas Active Teen groups. The junior B.A.T.s is taylored to the needs of 7th and 8th graders. The senior B.A.T.s is for all high school aged teens. The two groups are distinct and therefore appeal to the needs of the different ages.We look forward to meeting you!!! Ext. 127

2. SCOUTS- Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts of America

Scouting is a voluntary movement dedicated to the purpose of inspiring boys and girls with the highest ideals of character, conduct, patriotism and service so that they may become happy and resourceful citizens. St. Barnabas provides meeting space, adult supervision, retreats, social, fund raising opportunities, Eagle Scout projects and much more for Scouts in the community.

For more information please call Barbara at ext.102

ADDITIONAL ACTIVITES, GROUPS & EVENTS

In addition to the regularly scheduled activities of the preceding ministries other events are planned. These are open to all and we invite you to attend whenever you are able. Information about each is published in the Sunday Bulletin. This list includes but is not limited to the following...

Parents for Catholic Education (PCE)

Parish Gift & Thrift Shop

Anchor Club

Whole Family Catechesis

Blessing of Pets

Memorial for All Souls

Blood Drives

Ministry Fair

Morning Prayer

Parish Picnic

Mother’s Day Flower Sale

Nursing Home Ministry

Petition Book

Parish Social Committee - Hospitality

Crop Walk

Stewardship Committee

Craft Fair

Stewardship Fair

Prayer Line - Ext. 310

Go Green Committee

Days of Recollection

Project Joy (Christmas gifts for children)

Retreats

Volunteer Appreciation Dinner

Healing Masses

Healthy Bones- excercise classes

Karate Program

Line Dancing

Thanksgiving Baskets

Valentine's Dance

Living Stations

Whole Community Catechesis

Mardi Gras

Parish Trips

40 Hours

St. Barnabas Feast Day

St. Patrick's Day Dinner

Holy Hours

International Fall Festival

Parish Small Business Network

VOLUNTEERS

Having read this booklet you must realize that these many groups exist only because good people volunteer their time, talent, and love to help their fellow parishioners. Indeed, you are the Church. Without you none of this would be possible. We, therefore, ask you to prayerfully consider where you can be of the most service to others. We need you.

Those volunteers working with children are required to have fingerprinting done for a criminal background check (ask office for details).

THE SACRAMENTS

BAPTISM

Baptism is the sacrament of belonging to, and membership in the Church, which is the Body of Christ. In the celebration of Baptism God shares with us the gift of His own Divine Life. New members are welcomed into the community of faith at St. Barnabas each week. Baptism is celebrated during Mass on the first Sunday of the month and at 1:30 PM on all other Sundays. Parents of infants to be baptized need to be registered in the parish and have attended the Baptism Preparation Class. Children from ages 4 to 6 are prepared for the Sacrament during the Mini Sunday School, those between 7 and 17 are prepared in the CCD Program and those adults who are over 17 are prepared in the RCIA Program. Godparents must have a certificate of eligibility from their parish..

732-269-2208 Ext. 100

CONFIRMATION (click here for further information)

Confirmation is the sacrament in which we experience, affirm, and receive in a deeper way the life of the Spirit that we first received in Baptism. This sacrament is usually celebrated in the spring of a teen’s seventh grade year. The Bishop of the Diocese is the usual administrator of the sacrament. Regular attendance and continuous participation in the CCD Program is a prerequisite. Adults will be prepared for the sacrament through the RCIA Program and will be confirmed at the Easter Vigil celebration. Sponsors need a certificate of eligibility from their parish. 732-269-2208 Ext. 128

HOLY EUCHARIST

Receiving the Body and Blood of the Lord Jesus should be a regular part of our participation in the Eucharistic Liturgy (Mass). You have this opportunity every day at the 8:00 AM Mass. On weekends the Parish celebrates its unity at all Masses - on Saturday at 5:00 PM and at 6:30 PM (Spanish) and on Sunday at 7:00, 8:30, 10:00, 12:00 NOON and 5:00 PM. First Communion is usually held in May during a child’s second grade in school. They receive the Lord with the Parish Community at one of the weekend Masses. Ext. 126

EUCHARISTIC MINISTRY TO HOMEBOUND- If you or a loved one is homebound, please contact the Parish Office, ext. 100, to schedule regular visits with a Eucharistic Minister or priest.

RECONCILIATION -Confession and Penance

Reconciliation rooms offer individuals the opportunity for “face to face” or “behind the screen” confession. During Lent and Advent communal celebrations of our reconciliation with God are offered. The Sacrament is available on an individual basis every Saturday from 4:00 to 4:30 PM or by a special appointment with a priest. First Penance is usually held during a child’s second grade in school for youngsters in the CCD Program.

ANOINTING OF THE SICK

No longer referred to as the “Last Rites” the sick may request this anointing at any time they feel the need for God’s grace and healing love. During the year a communal celebration of Anointing takes place during one of the Sunday Masses. This is announced beforehand in the Sunday Bulletin. At Community Medical Center this sacrament is celebrated by the Catholic Chaplain. At the nursing station the sick person or a family member should ask that the Chaplain be called. Do not wait until the person is near death. The Sacrament is not only for the terminally ill but for any and all the sick. Ext. 333

MARRIAGE

Persons wishing to celebrate this Sacrament need to call the Parish Office at least one year prior to the intended date of the ceremony. Participation in a pre-marriage program (Pre-Cana, Engaged Encounter, etc.) is required. Weddings are held on Saturdays at 11:00 AM and at 2:00 PM. Friday weddings will only be held at 4:00 PM. The couple needs a copy of the parish wedding policies from the parish office. See below for our Wedding polices. If you plan on scheduling a wedding with us, please read below....

VOCATIONS/HOLY ORDERS- Have you been discerning a possible vocation to the priesthood, religious life or the deaconate? If you have questions about becoming a priest, religious, or deacon, please contact Fr. Kevin ext. 104 or Fr. Mike ext. 116.

ST. BARNABAS CHURCH WEDDING POLICIES: A GUIDE FOR MARRIAGE PREPARATION

CONGRATULATIONS!

The St. Barnabas Parish Family rejoices in your decision to love and marry each other. We are happy that you have decided to come to our parish to prepare to celebrate the Sacrament of Marriage. As you know you are not just preparing for the Wedding Day, but a new life together as husband and wife.

No doubt you will spend much time in planning your big day with dresses, invitations, tuxedoes etc. But it is now most important for you to take a keen interest in the Sacrament of Marriage.

In order to make sure that you are willing and prepared to enter into the Sacrament of Marriage, and in order to preserve the sacredness and meaning of this sacrament, St. Barnabas and the Diocese of Trenton presents these guidelines for our couples who are taking this most significant step in life. It may seem like a lot of information, but please read it over carefully so that you have no problem with what is required and things will flow smoothly for you.

It is our hope that your Wedding will be a beautiful celebration and we want to help you be assured of this. It is even more our hope that your marriage is beautiful, life-giving and truly sacramental in every way.

WHY MARRY AT ST. BARNABAS?

Today , couples have many options available to them in the way they choose to live their commitment to one another. In choosing to be married in the Catholic Church couples are expressing not only their commitment to one another, but also their commitment to the Church and the community of faith. Therefore a choice to be married “in the Church” at St. Barnabas makes sense if:

a person has a faithful relationship with the Lord.

At least one person is a practicing Catholic who takes that commitment seriously.

Both are physically, psychologically and emotionally mature enough to make a permanent, exclusive commitment. (given the fact that we expect such maturity we ask that parents not be involved in the wedding planning process at the parish)

The couple gives witness to their faith and to their appreciation of the Sacrament of Marriage by striving to live according to the teachings of the Church

Please Note: Parents are respectfully asked NOT to be involved in the preparation and planning process at the parish. This is for couples ONLY. If a couple is mature enough to be married, there is no need for mothers or fathers to get involved in this process. Parents will be kindly asked to have their daughters or sons contact us directly. Questions and concerns brought to us by parents will be re-directed to the couple. Parents must not attend parish meetings with the couple unless the couple is under the age requirement of the State of NJ. Thank you!

WEDDINGS TAKE PLACE AT ST. BARNABAS ON SATURDAYS ONLY AT 11:00AM AND 2:00PM, ON FRIDAYS WEDDING CEREMONIES ONLY ARE PERMITTED AT 4:00PM

WHAT PREPARATION IS INVOLVED?

The Catholic Church takes marriage very seriously and thus requires a period of preparation and discernment including:

at least one year of planning and prayerful reflection on the part of the couple, in contact with their parish priest, deacon or pastoral assistant.

A series of at least THREE meetings with the priest or deacon

1. 9-12 months for intake interview

2. 5-6 months before wedding

3. 2-3 months before wedding to plan the celebration

You are responsible for setting up these meetings.

It is also required by the Church that every couple attend PRE-CANA which will be explained at the first meeting. Pre-Cana is usually a one or two day commitment and there are various opportunities made available throughout the Diocese. The Pre-Cana schedule is available to you by clicking the link for the Diocese of Trenton on our Home Page.

WHAT DOCUMENTS ARE NEEDED?

A Baptismal Certificate DATED WITHIN ONE YEAR of the wedding (NOT YOUR ORIGINAL) along with a CONFIRMATION certificate. (If you have not received the Sacrament of Confirmation please discuss this with the priest or deacon. The RCIA program is available to you, but not mandatory.)

The Pre-Marital Inquiry will be done at your First and Second meetings along with the FOCUS instrument which is a compatibility profile.

a certificate indicating the completion of the Pre-Cana session

a MARRIAGE LICENSE obtained WITHIN 30 DAYS of the Wedding. It is obtained:

-From the town in NJ where the bride resides

-Or from the town in NJ where the groom resides

-Or from Berkeley Township if the legal residence of both the bride and groom is outside the state of NJ.

The Berkeley Township Clerk can be reached at 732-244-7400 ext. 14.

The witnesses sign the license and THE LICENSE MUST BE BROUGHT TO THE WEDDING REHEARSAL. Weddings cannot take place without a civil license.

WHAT ABOUT THE WEDDING ITSELF?

The actual details regarding the Marriage Rite of the Catholic Church are the last thing we will plan together. Before this discussion takes place there is much to talk about regarding the couple’s relationship with each other and God, plans for a future family, communication etc.

At the Third Session the Liturgy planning will take place only after the couple has carefully and prayerfully discussed the actual ceremony. Pre-Cana should provide you with a book entitled “A Marriage in the Lord.” This book will walk you through the entire Wedding Liturgy.

The celebration of the Rite of Marriage belongs to the Church at large. Although there is some flexibility within the Rite, it must be in accordance with Liturgical and Diocesan guidelines. All sacramental celebrations belong to the community of the

Church, so it is not simply about the couple. In choosing St. Barnabas for your wedding, we assume you agree with our policies presented here.. We thank you for your cooperation as we work together for the beauty and sanctity of your wedding ceremony.

In order for the liturgy to fully reflect its religious and spiritual nature, we encourage you to invite family members, friends, or members of your wedding party to take special roles during the celebration.

PLANNING THE WEDDING LITURGY

The date should be arranged with the Church FIRST before any reception plans are made.

All Wedding plans need to be approved by a priest or deacon from St. Barnabas Parish

Readings: You may have two readings from Scripture read by friends or relatives. The Prayer of the Faithful may also be read by friends or relatives. The priest will read the Gospel. So you need to choose 3 people to read. Since Scripture must be heard and understood, the person (s) you choose should have a strong and articulate speaking voice.

If you are having a Mass you may ask 2 people to bring up the Offertory Gifts (bread and wine).

If you include children in your wedding party we ask that they be at least five years old. If they carry rings they should carry props, the real rings should be held by the Best Man or Maid of Honor. It is strongly advised that the couple exercise good judgment when making their choice regarding the involvement of children. Weddings and public display can be traumatic to some children. We ask that all children be at least 5 years old and care should be taken when deciding where the child will sit during the service. Younger children should be seated in a pew with a parent or another relative. Please make informed and prudent choices in determining how best to involve children in the wedding party. This day should focus on the couple and the Sacrament, it is not meant to be about anything else.

-Visiting Priests and Deacons: Priests and Deacons from outside St. Barnabas are most welcome. They need to be delegated by our pastor. They are asked to respect the practice of the celebration of weddings at St. Barnabas.

-Witnesses: At least one witness (the BEST MAN and MAID OR MATRON OF HONOR) must be a practicing Catholic according to Church law.

THE REHEARSAL

The rehearsal date should be made at your First meeting. It is usually the evening before the wedding. It includes the wedding party and anyone else taking part in the ceremony (readers, gift bearers etc.) Please ask these people to commit themselves to both the wedding and the rehearsal. PLEASE BRING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE TO THE REHEARSAL as well as any optional donations to the priest or deacon. We want you to come on your wedding day and not have to worry

about any paperwork or money, so we take care of this at the rehearsal. If you plan to have a Unity Candle please bring that to the rehearsal as well.

PLEASE COMMIT TO BEING ON TIME FOR THE WEDDING AND THE REHEARSAL AND TAKE THIS COMMITMENT SERIOUSLY. THERE IS MUCH HAPPENING IN OUR PARISH ON WEEKENDS. THANK YOU!

MUSIC

Sacred music is an essential part of the Church’s tradition of prayer, it sets the tone for the experience. Music invites the assembly to participate with heart, mind and spirit. Music is not just a “nice touch” to the liturgy, but indeed draws the whole person into the celebration; it is therefore not an option not to have music since it is very much a part of the Sacramental celebration. Our Music Director will assist you in the selection of the music for your wedding. Popular songs that have special meaning for the couple are more appropriate at the reception. To schedule an appointment to plan your music selections, contact our Director of Music Tom Hinz via email at: tom@musicplanning.com

Tom usually meets with couples on Sunday after Mass. He should be contacted 2-3 months before the wedding. At an extra fee, Tom can also arrange for extra instruments at your wedding that could include: trumpets, flute and violin, string quartet, mixed quartet, and even a bagpipers for outside the church. If a couple wishes to utilize another organist or musician or soloist, Mr. Hinz must approve the musicians and their musical selections at least one month prior to the wedding. There is also a bench fee required to be paid to our Music Director if you choose to not utilize our Music Director's services. The standard fee for the wedding music is available at the church office or can be discussed with Tom Hinz when the planning begins. All music fees must be paid either before or at the couple's first appointment with the priest or deacon. For more information, go to Tom's music director website at: www.musicplanning.com to download a copy of his WEDDING MUSIC GUIDELINES document.

FLOWERS AND WEDDING DECORATIONS

The flowers used for your wedding should be in accordance with the Church environment and Liturgical Season. Please inform your florist that nothing should be moved that is already in the Church or Sanctuary. The flowers which are placed in the Church are considered a DONATION to St. Barnabas and should remain in the Church after your wedding. If you wish to take your flowers with you please inform the priest or deacon so we can plan on replacing them for the weekend Masses. Please also remind your florist that any bows or floral pieces that are placed on pews that use glue, tape, or wire cannot be used. Rubber bands or pipe cleaners can be used. Flowers are NOT to be placed on the Altar Table itself. Arbors, gates, trellises, gazebos, lanterns and torches or any other architectural or garden structures are also prohibited.

A WEDDING CANDLE OR UNITY CANDLE is permitted during Weddings at St. Barnabas, but it must be provided by the couple and brought to the rehearsal. We recommend that such candles be used at the reception

The principal symbols of the Sacrament of Marriage are the Exchange of Consent (vows) and Rings. Over the years, other secondary symbols have overshadowed these two key elements of Marriage. The Wedding Candle is not a part of the Roman Catholic Rite of Marriage. We suggest that when a Unity or Wedding Candle is used that parents light the taper candles as they are being seated before the ceremony begins, then the couple may light the center candle after they exchange their vows.

AS THE WEDDING COMES TO A CLOSE...

Guests are requested to congratulate the bride and groom with applause in place of rice, birdseed or confetti. Please do not have your guests throw anything that has to be picked up after your wedding. There is often more than one wedding at St. Barnabas on a weekend. There is also confessions and Masses to be prepared and celebrated. Please respect our sacred environment and the other events being held at the parish. You are not permitted to have rose petals or anything else thrown inside or outside the Church. Because of Diocesan policy and insurance regulations, runners are not permitted down the center aisle.

We ask that you either have pictures taken or a receiving line after the Wedding, but not both. Too much time is taken up when couples greet all their guests and then take pictures. Please choose only one.

PHOTOGRAPHERS AND VIDEOGRAPHERS- NO VIDEO PERMITTED PLEASE READ

As of September, 2009

COUPLES MUST READ AND SIGN BEFORE EACH WEDDING

*PLEASE SHOW A COPY OF THIS POLICY TO YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER

To preserve the sanctity and reverence of the Sacrament of Marriage, Still Photographers must NOT be in the way of any movement (i.e. bride, groom, bridesmaids, etc) during the celebration, they are to stay out of the sanctuary, off the altar, or not to be directly in front of the altar or people. In other words, the less they are seen the better. They may use flash photography, but please keep it MINIMAL and do not flash in people’s eyes or faces.

NO VIDEOGRAPHERS ARE PERMITTED IN THE CHURCH. This is due to many past abuses which take away from the sanctity of the Sacrament. We are sorry for any inconvenience and hope you understand. However, SINCE VIDEO RECORDING IS NO LONGER PERMITTED AT WEDDINGS. YOU MAY HAVE YOUR WEDDING VIDEO TAPED WITH OUR NEW AUDIO-VISUAL SYSTEM FOR A FEE OF $85.00.

If you would like to have your Wedding video recorded on a DVD with our in-house HD Camera, please ask your priest or deacon for a form. Thank you

YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO THE CHURCH

It is our sincere hope that you remain part of our ongoing community here at St. Barnabas. We look forward to having you join us in worship and activities. We invite you as a couple to get involved in our parish community. It will truly enhance your marriage and family life. St. Barnabas makes its facilities and staff available to the couple during the months of Marriage Preparation and the actual Wedding Day. For these services a donation is generally made which goes to the Parish.

For registered parishioners, the fee for Weddings is $350.00 and for non-parishioners with special permission from the pastor the fee is $450.00. Due to difficulties in the past, these fees must be paid before or at your first appointment with a priest or deacon. No weddings will be scheduled until the first meeting and fees are paid in full. Some people have asked why there is such a fee. Our parish has enormous expenses with electric, maintenance, grounds keeping, sacristan salary, taxes, and general upkeep. When you think of what the wedding dress alone costs, we feel our fee is a reasonable donation. If, however you feel you cannot afford this fee please feel free to speak to the pastor, priest or deacon assisting you. Do not let this be a reason to prevent you from having a Church wedding. You may wish to thank the priest or deacon with a stipend of your choice, they are not compensated for weddings by the parish.

Alcohol is prohibited on the grounds before, during or after your wedding. If there is champagne it must be kept in the car. Please make sure that all persons in the wedding party are sober and respectful of the Church and the Sacrament

With all this in mind, have a wonderful wedding and God bless you both in your new life to come as husband and wife!

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GENERAL PARISH INFORMATION

The Parish Office is in the RECTORY, to the left the church. Office hours are from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM Monday to Thursdays, and from 9:00 AM to 3:00 PM on Friday

732-269-2208.

Office extension 100

Fr. Kevin Keelen, Pastor ext. 104

Religious Education/CCD - is held in Father Rucki Hall and in the Annex which is to the right of the church. Office hours for CCD are from 10 AM to 5 PM on Monday to Thursday during the school year.

The Adoration Chapel is open every day from 7:00 AM to 7:00 PM during the week and from 7:00 AM to 12:00 NOON on Saturday and Sunday for Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament. You are always welcome to spend time there with the Lord in prayer. For more information dial ext. 313.

TheGIFT & THRIFT SHOP is in the Spiritual Center vestibule.

OPEN: Sat. 3:30-5:30, Sun. 8:30am-1:30pm, Mon. 9am-1pm, Wed. 8:30am-4pm

Certificates of Eligid Sponsor Certification are issued through the Parish Office to parishioners who have been registered in the parish for a minimum of six months and meet Diocesan requirements for being a sponsor at Baptism or Confirmation, namely:

16 years of age

fully initiated in the Catholic Church, i.e. have celebrated

Baptism, First Eucharist, and Confirmation.

if married, are in a marriage recognized by the Roman

Catholic Church

actively practicing their Catholic Faith, attending Mass

regularly